Lock In And Make The Next 12 Months Better Than The Last 22 Years

Here's how

The only real job I ever had was stocking wood in a warehouse. Under the table. Cash.

I can still feel it. Sawdust in my nose, splinters through the gloves, the specific silence of a Tuesday afternoon when everyone you graduated with is somewhere becoming somebody, and you’re stacking lumber a foreman pays in folded twenties because you’re not even on the books.

Not even on the books. That was the part that got me. I wasn’t losing the game. I wasn’t in the game. There was no record I existed.

I’m 27 now. I’ve made more than $8 million on the internet. And most of the people who ask me how I did it are older than me.

I need you to sit in that warehouse with me for a minute, because if you’re 22 and lost, you’re standing somewhere just like it right now. Maybe yours looks like a dorm room you can’t afford to be failing in. A retail counter. Your childhood bedroom at your parents’ house with the same posters on the wall, which might be the loudest room on earth.

And at 1am you do the math. You know the math I mean. Everyone from high school laid out on a scoreboard in your head. He’s got the internship. She’s engaged. That kid who ate glue in fourth grade just posted his new car. And you’re lying there doing subtraction on your own life, coming up negative, feeling your chest get tight about a future that hasn’t even happened yet.

Nobody says this part out loud, so I will: it’s not laziness keeping you up. It’s grief. You’re mourning the person you were supposed to be by now.

I know that grief. I dropped out. My “friends” (and I put that in quotes on purpose) laughed at me. I was posting videos every single day that got under 100 views. For months. Grown men I knew sent them to each other as jokes. There is a specific flavor of humiliation in trying, publicly, badly, while everyone who isn’t trying at all watches you from the bleachers. It tastes like metal.

Here’s what I didn’t know then, that I would drive to that warehouse and tell 19-year-old me through the fence:

The scoreboard is fake.

Not “don’t compare yourself” (you’ve heard that, it doesn’t help, comparison is involuntary). I mean the actual scoreboard is measuring a game that ended. Degree by 22, career by 25, house by 30. Who wrote that? Not you. You inherited it, the way you inherited your last name. Your parents drew you that map with love. With love. And it’s a map of a world that stopped existing while they were paying off the degree that got them into it.

You are navigating your one life with a map of a city that got demolished.

Meanwhile the internet quietly reset the clock for everyone, and almost nobody has noticed. Somewhere right now a kid who can barely spell is making more in a month than your professor makes in a year, from a couch, off some silly internet thing nobody even understands. I’ve met a lot of those kids. I became one. We are not impressive people. You would not hire us.

The only difference (and I mean the only one) is that we started before we felt ready, and you’re still waiting to feel ready.

So let me kill that wait for you right now.

Feeling ready is not coming. It does not exist. It has never once arrived for anybody. Readiness is a receipt you get after the reps. You’ve been treating it like a ticket you need before you’re allowed in.

And every year you wait, the waiting gets more comfortable. That’s the real trap. You think the pressure builds until you finally snap and act. It doesn’t. The pressure fades. The job you took “for now” becomes the job you have. “For now” is the most expensive phrase in the English language, and it’s charging you interest.

I want to tell you what changing your life actually looked like, because it’s not the montage.

Nobody clapped. That’s the headline. There was no moment where the music swelled. There was a long stretch where my checking account said -$5,000, my credit cards said $80,000, and I was getting better at things nobody was watching me do. The doubt was louder than the progress the whole way through.

That’s the part no one warns you about. The evidence arrives years after the decision. In between, you run on conviction alone, in the dark, while everyone you know politely assumes you’re failing.

And that gap is where everybody quits. Not because they’re weak. Because nobody told them the gap was part of it.

Now you know.

So here’s the end of this, and it’s the part I’d say slowest.

Underneath all the research and the planning and the “getting your ducks in a row,” I know what you’re actually doing, because I did it too. You’re waiting for permission. For someone with authority to look at you (you, specifically) and say: you’re allowed to want more than this.

Your parents can’t say it. They want you safe, and safe means the old map. Your boss won’t say it. Your friends are waiting on their own permission slip, and you going first would say something about them they’re not ready to hear. That’s why the group chat goes quiet when you start moving. Nobody’s mad at you. You’re evidence.

So it has to be me. Some guy on the internet who was getting paid in folded twenties a few years ago and now gets asked for directions by people older than him.

You’re allowed.

You’re allowed to skip the line. You’re allowed to want money without apologizing. You’re allowed to be embarrassing for a year. You’re allowed to be delusional for twelve months and see what happens. You’re allowed to fold up the map they gave you, put it in a drawer, and thank them for it later from somewhere they never imagined you’d be.

Nobody is coming to hand you this. That was never the plan. This is me handing you this.

You’re not late. You’re barely early.

Go.